In our Christmas letter for 2012 we included a P.S. with some marital advice. We said, “Our first year, newly married advice: read a book together, take turns reading aloud, and be sure to discuss any points that are thought provoking and intriguing together.”
This has been so good for us. Reading a book on marriage (for example) aloud to each other has provided us with opportunities to discuss things that we might not have thought about or things that might only come up in arguments. It’s been a wonderful way for us to have open lines of communications; to be able to talk about things with a heart and mind open to repentance and service. It allows us to get to know each other better. I love doing this with Adam. It’s definitely one of my favorite things. We crawl in bed and usually read and discuss a chapter or two before saying goodnight.
We have several books we are reading together right now. We pick and choose which one to read depending on who wants to read and what they feel like reading that night.
So what are we reading?
1. Big Truths for Young Hearts: Teaching and Learning the Greatness of God by Bruce Ware
Lydia’s Opinion: This book is actually for kids but it is amazing; full of simple yet deep theological truths on the greatness of God. I LOVE this book. I have learned so much by simply reading it. At the end of each section Dr Ware has questions for thought and answering those questions is so good for making sure the information you are taking in is actually hitting home. I highly recommend this book! And when we have kids we will re-read this book with them.
Adam’s Opinion: I actually had Dr. Ware for a class in Seminary and was able to be around him and hear a number of his sermons. He truly has a heart for God and obtaining a greater understanding of the God we serve. This book does a phenomenal job of explaining very large concepts about God in a way that is bite-sized and understandable but still complex for any maturity level. I love reading this book with Lydia and discussing the different points on theology. I can’t wait to have kids that we can read this book to and discuss it!
2. Real Marriage: The Truth About Sex, Friendship, and Life Together by Mark and Grace Driscoll
Adam’s Opinion: This is a pretty great book so far. I’m sure it will not disappoint. It has brought out some thoughts on different aspects of marriage that maybe we haven’t discussed very much. The Driscolls discuss love and respect for each other and how to try to better understand your partner. It’s a good way to talk about hard issues and possible touchy subjects within the context of working through it together for greater communication and a happier marriage. It’s been a very helpful book!
Lydia’s Opinion: We are on like chapter 5 but this book has been enlightening. Grace has already challenged me to be not just a better wife but truly a God-seeking servant who serves, respects, and encourages my husband through God’s strength, mercy, grace, and love. This is a must-read for all married couples! I’d even go so far as to say that engaged couples could read it together but most of the issues they have talked about you’ll only experience within marriage. Either way, it is an excellent read!
3. The Revolution: A Manifesto by Ron Paul
Lydia’s Opinion: Ummmm…. I am thoroughly ashamed to say that even though I’ve owned this book for YEARS! I’ve never sat down and read it. Those of you who know how much I freakin’ LOVE Dr Paul will (should) be shocked by that fact. Let’s be honest: this book is kind of hard to read. Dr Paul is intelligent. Half of the words I have no idea what they mean (usually because I’ve never seen them before!). But I love Ron. So I love this book. I will look up every word I don’t understand and I will finish this book and I will love it when I’m done with it.
Adam’s Opinion: This has been a very interesting book. It’s one that I know what he’s going to say, I know exactly what he means, but I feel like no one ever actually says the things he is saying. They’re all common sense ideas, yet somehow we’ve lost our grasp on them as a society. Whether you’re a Democrat or a Republican or just somewhere in the middle you have to agree that we should all be headed in the direction of common sense. And that’s what this book is about. It’s cool to read a perspective from at least one person who has been in the government for a long time who is familiar with the Constitution and wants us to continue to abide by it. It’s refreshing!