In response to CoolGuy’s question about God bring your mate vs. guys pursing girls… hold on. Let me reread so I remember exactly what I’m answering!
Personally, I think the idea of God bringing your mate to you while you sit around doing nothing is stupid. I’m not saying it can’t happen that way (because it most certainly can; God can do anything He wants) but what I am saying is by saying and believing that it takes all responsibility away from the guy to actually do something. I’m going to be addressing guys because they are the ones that are supposed to start the relationship.
Let’s go back to where this line of thinking started (this is always the scripture people use to back up this nonsense). Please open your Bible to Genesis 24. This is about Isaac and Rebekah. Two problems I immediately see with using this story to back up “waiting around”.
1. Abraham decides when Isaac will marry.
2. Neither Isaac or Rebekah know who they are marrying… they just know they are getting married.
Okay. So clearly guys who agree with this “God will bring my future mate to me. I just have to wait on Him” stuff either haven’t thought about it much at all or they just really want their daddy picking out their wife.
From what I know (which I admit is precious little) arranged marriages were how marriage was “done” in Biblical times. The Father chose the bride for the groom. The fathers of the bride and the groom got together to talk about it. They either decide they want to go ahead with the marriage or they chose not to. The fathers arranged the marriage.
That has nothing to do with you sitting on your butt waiting for God to bring you a wife.
Secondly, very few marriages that start with the couple barely knowing each other actually last. Yes, some arranged, “wouldn’t know you if I passed you on the street” marriages do work. But are they best? Is that what you want in a marriage (going based on this scripture!)?
The story of how God brings Isaac and Rebekah is no doubt a beautiful story. But I think it’s incredibly lame to use that as an excuse not to search for your future wife.
Let me turn you to Proverbs. Let’s see… there are so many good ones. But let’s start with the most obvious. Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.”
Wow. Did you catch that one word? FINDS. How do you find things? You search for them!
Turn to Proverbs 25:2 “It is the glory of God to conceal a matter, but the glory of kings is to search out a matter.”
Is having a wife of importance to you? Then search it out! God in His amazing glory has concealed and it is your glory to search for Him and your future wife.
Now on Proverbs 31:10 “Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.”
Once again we have the word find. Finding… searching… finding… Hello! Do we see what is going on here?! It’s a call for guys to search. To find the one they’ve been waiting for. If you don’t search and pursue how will you find and catch?! When you do find your woman you are going to have to pursue and capture her heart so get a head start and find her already!
Seek the Lord with all of your heart, mind and soul. Seek your wife by searching out God and His desires for your life. Keep your heart and eyes wide open. You never know where you might meet her and you certainly don’t want to be sitting around doing nothing while some other guy comes around and swoops her off like a chickenhawk! Macocoo take me away! (those of you who have seen the Pirate will appreciate that!)
Seriously guys. There is call for you to search, to find and to pursue. There are so many girls waiting for guys to step up and be men. Don’t assume you know what will happen when you don’t. You don’t hold the future. The Lord does. So don’t live in fear! Get out there and be a man! Please stop being mice.